Does Your Man Prefer Porn To You?

January 31st, 2015

 

I had a flash answer to the people that got in touch with me to do Why Men Use Porn documentary above : “To wank! What else do you need porn for?! Send me the checque and see ya later” Laughs aside, the programme was a lot more deeper than that. Well that was the intention anyway. Or to put it in a relationship context: Why Does Your Partner Prefer Porn To You?

The fact he is still with you must indicate he still loves you and doesnt want to lose you for  sincere or selfish reasons. Only you can determine that from his actions if you are brutally honest with yourself . Especially if you are the bread winner and he is dependent on that, but telling women to cut these guys loose is like telling a crack addict to jack the crack in. It's not that simple but sticking to what I do know assuming you both still care for each other (and you know this by the things they do) then what it tells me is that something is lacking in your relationship.

I single guys out for this because I have never heard of a woman yet who has been addicted to porn who couldnt get someone in to sort her out.

Porn doesnt judge the end user. That pretty girl bent over spreading her herself available to you to use as you wish has no idea who you, the end user is. You bought her in a magazine or DVD and she is yours! All yours!

That's ok for temporary relief but its not ever going to be more rewarding than that. Even if you got to met the girl you might not even be her type and heaven forfend you do, you will not impress upon her how hard she made you come from being an admirer of her work. You still need the feel of real flesh, a living breathing woman that wants you. Some reciprocation.Some feeling. If you don't then you simply shouldn't be in a relationship if all she exists for is to look after your needs. The two most important elements of a relationship is trust and commmunication so if you are so dependent on porn then you should be open enough to discuss this with your partner.

If your partner doesnt like to get freaky  like the porn you enjoy she will either understand this is your  thing and let you get on with it or even better, you can enjoy it together but I aint met a woman yet that lets things go like this  so if this is an issue then it needs addressing. Fast!

Some men I've noticed blame it on the porn for ruining their lives without considering the blame is due to something they are missing in their own lives. Couples have richer relationships if they are honest about their feelings and even respect each others fantasies which is what works for couples who play with people they bring into their relationships but if you are dependent on porn most of the time and can't talk to your partner about it then this might be whats wrong with your relationship. Don't blame it on the porn!

Just don't watch porn while you are doing it because women are not stupid. No woman wants to compete with what you are watching even if you can happily enjoy doing it if she watches something that gets her going.

Trust and communication hath understanding. If this is not in place then your relationship is in serious trouble

NOTE: These views are my own and should not be misconstrued as professional or expert advice

The Face Sitting, Ben Dover Podcast and Partying

December 24th, 2014

I must apologise for my absence here. I've resisted mixing my politics with my porn up until now but I feel the time has come to bring this to the attention of anyone who is interested in what I've been up to and why I do what I do. I can assure you I have been nothing but busy being active in all things adult business even if I've not been shooting for Real Couples. I can assure you that we have plenty couples ready and raring to go when I do get back into shooting. I still have updates to come but things have been uncertain in recent months with the new changes in the law. While I think most of it doesnt apply to me its still an indicator that they are coming, not just for me but for everyone in porn, even the amateur enthusiasts since the law effectively targets all producers of adult content. It's been interesting observing the changes as they happen but I won't bore you with the details. I have the Naked Truth Podcast for that. If you are interested I will be focussing more attention in that area as I have with The Real Couples Podcast and in the last two weeks, The Ben Dover Podcast Show: Aged & Confused. You might notice that Ben Dover has joined the same Real Sex Pass network of sites, so all you fans of Ben Dover can mosey on over and get Ben, Real Couples and all the other sites in the network for the price of one signup.

 

 

At the Paul Raymond Awards with Nichi Hodgson & Jerry Barnett

I was also at that face sitting protest outside Parliament on December the 1st which was run by  Charlotte Rose @_Charlie_rose who is a sex worker and trainer running for MP.  Sex & Censorship seemed to be the only campaign speaking out against the blatant censorship and reining in of the adult sex business. The real danger of this is, as Myles Jackman@ObscenityLawyer coined the term: “Porn is the canary in the coal mine” meaning that it is the first freedom to go because it is in the forefront of free speech by virtue of it being at the centre of most peoples moral compass. Look beyond that and you can see the dangers that lay ahead with censorship. This means control of the internet and infringement of your privacy which they try to instill that fear in you all the time with the war on terrorism so yes, its a scary time indeed and porn is in the way of that control of the internet.

Without getting too much into it the government should run the country and stop interfering with peoples sexual habits or what they want to watch. Have a look at the video and if you feel strongly about it as I do then follow Charlotte Rose, Sex & Censorship and Myles Jackman.

Where do I fit in with this? I support them by doing what I do to help convey the message where I can via the videos and the podcasts. I actively support anyone who is doing something to defend, protect and promote our business in a positive light.

With Charlotte Rose between the speeches and face sitting at Westminster

I've been in the centre of some arguments and every time I paused to weigh up the relevance of those arguments I arrived at the same conclusion that most of attacks on the sex business are simply because people do not know much about the porn business. Left to their own thoughts it's a dark ugly world we inhabit and that thought is conveyed right up the ladder to administrative government quangoes like ATVOD and OFCOM trying to regulate the internet under the guise of protecting the children and have no idea of how this business works so they impose their will by their poorly tought out regulations and order us to obey rules that are totally unworkable for business like outlawing a slew of sexual acts designed to disrupt and destroy the adult business while allowing the rest of the world to go unregulated because its outside of their legal jurisdiction.

Hows that protecting children from seeing porn when they can see it for free on tube sites that don't have any  age verification controls beyond an admission to click on a button stating you are over 18?

Making sex acts like face sitting, dirty talking and squirting illegal is like preventing a chef from using certain ingredients in the kitchen to cook a tasty meal.

Having spent many years in this business and 10 years on Real Couples it was a no brainer that I would get involved with the various campaigns to oppose the new legislation. If we don;t then the adult business will decline further than it is now and if opportunists with alternative means think they'll clean up, they should consider that this legislation is set up to outlaw that too so do get involved now before its too late. It was complacency and the belief that this law was so ridiculous that it would never happen that allowed it to slip through so stay alert and watch this space for more info if you want to get involved and show your support.

The protest on Parliament did get attention and positive press.  Julian Huppert MP put in a motion to get the new laws annulled and ATVOD hassaid since that face sitting is OK but this is not enough to placate those who are against the act. We want the law repealed. The laws should be brought in line to recognise the changes in attitude and lifestyle today, not the Obscene Publications Act (OPA) that was set up for Lady Chatterleys Lover and Nabokovs Lolita back in the 50′s…Its 2015 and here we are still defending sexual civil liberties.

Believe me,  I never saw myself doing this campaigning and protesting stuff but here I am because I believe it has to be done if I am to continue my business of producing porn. What kind of scenes will I be shooting if I had to tell couples a whole list of things they can and can't do? Fans of the content will know that this is simply unworkable.

DEFEND YOUR WANKING RIGHTS! DEFEND YOUR SEXUAL FREEDOM!

 

On another note, November is the month when adult video producers slow down productions and the parties and events begin. This year has been like party central. The biggest highlights were The Paul Raymond Awards which had an impressive turnout at The Spearmint Rhino. No night is complete without the usual protest from OBJECT banging on about #takedownfaketaxi  using it as a tool to promote unlicensed taxis and rapists. As per usual theyve got it all twisted and fail to see its called Fake Taxi because its not a real taxi service.

An equally swish night and more intimate affair was the TVX Babes launch party to promote their song “Coming For Christmas” which is a cheeky play on words for the festive season with some hot TVX babes Angel Long (she was on Real Couples 10 years ago), Victoria Summers, Jess West and the lead singer of the song Brooklyn Blue. The aim of this song with Porn Hub Records was to be the Christmas number one which I thought would've been a nice change to Band Aid 30 I thought it was really well produced and guess what? Its got that geezer Ben Dover banging the drums in it too! Not that you'd notice for all the pretty totty in it.

See? I told you I've been busy and this ain't  half of it.

 

 

Q&A: Why Do Men/ Women Cheat?

November 22nd, 2014

Could a threesome with your partner be an alternative to cheating?

I did threaten to do this and so far in 36 hours there's been no objections to me donning the white coat, thick rimmed spectacles and puffing casually on a pipe as I endeavour to answer that most burning question:

Why do men or for that matter women cheat in relationships?

The answer to this is complex and my answer should not serve as a blanket one size fits all solution for both sexes. Lack of attention, lack of love. The sheer thrill of mischief and hopefully not getting caught because there is something just extra delicious in having a frivolous encounter that is hard , fast and dirty to make you feel alive and if you have a conscience, incredibly guilty depending on how much you love the partner you cheated on.

The biggest insult to the offended partner is when the  person you have cheated with is lesser in looks and therein is where logic follows that the motive was not for lack of anything at home. Some people just have a need to fuck up a picture perfect life for no real discernible reason

If you are that rare kind of person who would absolutely never cheat then you are a rare breed indeed but to be brutally truthful: Most people on the planet will! To coin the phrase “A hard on has no conscience” seems to be apt here but if you are looking beyond the surface of why men and women really cheat then it could be simply down to personal insecurities like low self esteem or a need for self affirmation that we still have what it takes to attract a partner or worse and more brutal: You simply wanted to fuck someone else who isn't  your partner!

Here's a thought. Rather than cheat, have you considered getting your partner involved and making it a threesome? While youre at it, have you eer considered getting it filmed? I know a guy  who runs a site that features liberated couples like you.

Hmm that gives me an idea for my next blog update….

Search on Real Couples network of sites for threesomes   Many to choose from Click on the pic up top  if you want to go to the Vicki, Michelle & Jim scene on the site

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Episode #237: Amy Latina & Jaz

November 19th, 2014

 

It seems meeting partners online through social networking and dating sites is all the rage these days. There are some exceptions to this rule. Like Jack who met Megan Coxxx at a party that got out of hand with the alcohol and had a failed gang bang where Jack ever so keen to make an impression, manned up to the task and delivered the goods. Or like Hayley & Paul who met in a mental hospital

What these couples have in common is finding out the girl they are with has done porn. Being a veteran of so many shoots I was in a position of experience to discuss this such to such a degree I consider myself a bit of an expert on the subject.

With this in mind I will endeavour to opine on those thought provoking questions that rarely if ever get asked in the hope that it may inspire discussion or even debate where dating and couples are concerned.

With Amy & Jazz their relationship appears strong and healthy because the trust and communication is there between them, even though Jazz admits at first his attraction was drawn to the possibility of sex of the standard that is expected of porn stars but knos that not to be the case now he is in the reality of a loving relationship. Instead Amy has included him in with her work ad he does all her pictures
and even stars in them with her which has enriched their relationship because no they can enjoy porn sex on camera and real sex off between themselves.

Who knows where that could lead?

UK Adult Producers Awards 2014

November 3rd, 2014

To see the FULL AWARDS VIDEO (that means with all the naughty rude bits left in) Go to: www.ukadultprodcerawards.com

I've been busy for being involved with the London Underground Party which hosted the UK Adult Producers Awards at The Loft Studios last month. It went really well considering the lull on the UK production scene the past 18 months which saw changes happening in the adult business that influenced the theme of this years party. Censorship which in turn lent itself to us calling the party by its name feeling that we were indeed being forced underground by the anti porn establishment.

To this end, it wasnt difficult to see why UKAP agreed to award Jerry Barnett a special “services to the industry award” for his work with Sex & Censorship. You can join, support and follow his campaigns at www.sexandcensorship.org and @pornpanic. I have shown support by lending my services as a cameraman and editor to some of his efforts which spawned my Naked Truth podcast which I use to disseminate industry relevant news

The aim of The London Underground party was to get as many people in the adult business to meet up, network, party and hopefully generate more business around the XBizEU event in London which took place late September over 4 days and nights. It was strictly an industry only event specifically for this. Judging by the party you might not even notice the industry needed an event for the fun we had on the night. It was all getting too serious in the wake of all the censorship, legislation and anti porn rhetoric of ISP filters and agenda driven anti porn campaigners for what is essentially all about fun. Or to use a favourite saying of mine: All this bullshit gets in the way of good quality wanking time.

Do check out our DVD selection from the winners and nominations on this awards video. If you want to buy DVDs then Your Choice is the only company I would recommend being that they are not just reliable but also fellow members of UKAP who helped sponsor the awards on the night as well

The video features the various guests who attended, the awards and after party in a nice little jam packed video running for 30 mins so kick back, relax with your favourite bevvie and enjoy.

For more info: Check the site here

Michelle Thornes new DVD: Pushing Boundaries

September 25th, 2014

Michelle Thorne in all the ways you've wanted to see her in one filthy collection

In case you missed it the first time out, the news hit that Michelle Thorne has finally given the fans their ultimate wish. To see her getting filthy in every which way with not just her man but with other men too. She gave us scenes of her first gang bang, interracial and double penetration on her own site.

Now those first time scenes are compiled onto one DVD and available as a must have collectors item exclusively through Your Choice who I can vouch for as a reliable mail order company operating for more than 20 years now. They were also the exclusive distributor for her other self produced DVD Michelle Thorne Exxxposed.

I was fortunate to bear witness to two of the shoots on this DVD when she asked me to  film her first DP with Stefan Hard and Ben Kelly and them boys showed no mercy on her pretty pussy and willing arse hole. I was the behind the scenes documentarist on her prison gang bang scene which I thought was every bit interesting as the actual scene itself as we see Michelle flitting around  looking pretty putting on her make up, joking with the boys and casual banter about all things as the boys hang around priming themselves to deal with a prime piece of porn real estate. Whatever came of that edit I have no idea. It may well be a behind the scenes edit they might update their site in future with but it offered a real behind the scenes of how these scenes come together

The fact that this DVD is compiled with the most sought after updates on her site is reason enough to own it. Get yours today.

Michelle Thorne Exxxposed

June 25th, 2014

Our latest update in the members area is a scene from Michelles site

If you love Michelle Thorne   you may be pleasantly surprised to know that she has been getting up to all sorts with different men on her site in recent months. It seems that doing this has been the source of much kerfuffle amongst fans on porn forums but I can say that I have seen it with my own eyes because I filmed for her on two of the occasions she did those scenes.

She's done interracial, a prison gang bang with three guys and two guy scenes in a variety of anal and double penetration combos. In fact, given the levels she did do you might be wondering what was left off the menu. As to the why now question on everyones mind the answer to that can be heard on the the special podcast I did on the day (see above) I shot Michelle and Stefan with Ben Kelly.

They agreed to do this podcast mainly to set the record straight about  the questions flying around on the net and I couldnt help but ask  why she did it for herself when she passed on a substantial sum to do it for a big UK company.

They admit on their  podcast  that theyve been up to all manner of naughtiness like this in their private lives for sometime  which is what interested me because I witnessed how jealous they can be  from  my last shoot with them.

What you are about to see on Michelles site is exclusive material you will not see anywhere which is why I understand she did a site for herself.

I was invited to shoot one of the scenes and another behind the scenes of the day she did a gang bang with 3 guys in a jail cell. To my mind this is a monumental occasion for Michelle Thorne fans.

Our latest update was given to me by Michelle  to promote her site given that it is a home made POV anal sex tape.  You can get this scene and a lot more at www.michellethorneexxxposed.com but don't forget you can see all her scenes since I've known her, right here including behind the scenes and extras

The site also features many of her sexy friends and has Michelle doing all sorts from role playing, fantasy, solo masturbation, lesbian, group sex, fetishes like smoking, fishnets, stockings, feet and plenty of  action involving Michelle getting hard cock  in all her beautiful holes. This site is the place to see her at her  filthiest best.

The home of Michelle Thornes exclusive content

House Wife Kelly

June 17th, 2014

One of many scenes from HouseWife Kellys site

I discovered House Wife Kelly  on twitter by her sexy pics and was excited when she sent me a DM wanting to be on Real Couples. I was disappointed and pleased in equal measure to find that she was based in the US which is a little outside of how far I'm prepared to travel getting  shoots done. However  I checked out her site and I was keen to showcase her sexy adventures  featured exclusively on her site  www.housewifekelly.com

She also has another newer site dedicated to her foot fetish exploits www.kellysfootfetish.com Both sites have preview trailers and an introductory video by Kelly Anderson herself

Her sites are like a shrine to this amazingly attractive woman with the hot swinger lifestyle and you can get a good look at this through her home made videos of which there is a large varied collection  well worth signing up for.

Check out Kellys Foot Fetish site

Her  videos range from solo masturbation, lesbian (Kelly is genuinely bi) and sex with her husbands friends or friends they met through the swingers lifestyle and the occasional group sex party with other guys and girls and even group girl on girl action. She has a huge following  on twitter. The videos are mostly filmed by her husband but occasionally she gets him in on the action too in  POV gonzo action. What really works is the variety of people who get involved so Kelly is not just the only woman you will see on her site. She is the main star though

What I loved about her videos is reality style in which they are made. She truly enjoys sex and probably gets turned on  being filmed and watched by  her husband behind the camera while she has sex with other men and women.

Kellys foot fetish site is exclusively about her feet in all variations of the fetish and she does have amazingly pretty feet. We've come to realise this is a very popular  since the internet exploded with niche sites outside of the norm and I'm sure the content here will not disappoint the most ardent fan of female feet.

We're hoping to have a sample scene from Kelly in our members area soon so look out for that but meanwhile go check her sites out  :-)

 

 

 

 

Episode #238: PussyKat & LK

June 5th, 2014

Whats the story? Morning horny!

This shoot was by and far the quickest  I've ever done. Dont get me wrong, doing shoots quickly isnt the order of the day on how I go about it. Why rush anything if you're having fun right? Unless you're really keen and I'm  guessing LK like ost blokes was a morning type of guy that wakes up with that aching hard boner wanting to bury it somewhere nice  In this case in his beautful wife, but more on that later.

I met PussyKat and LK when they came to the UK Adult Producers stand at The Venus Festival in Berlin in 2012.  This gorgeous petite figured woman was working up to solo and girl on girl only and while none of the other producers were interested because of that, I asked if she would do it with her boyfriend. With a big beaming smile on her face she said: “Of course!”  then explained they shoot for their own site and that couples work was rare, especially in France where they live.

It seems no one takes a girl serious  unless she is willing to perform with other men. I see no problem with a woman doing scenes with the man she chooses, especially if that partner is her real life one. I'd rather see a beautiful woman doing it with the man that turns her on than just doing  it for a job. If I wanted to see this kind of video then I would get those sex instruction videos for all the fake, breathy emotion they bring. So it came to be that PussyKat & LK were coming to the UK to do their own shoots that they  became the first couple I shot from meeting in Berlin and I have to say the shoot was probably the fastest I ever did in recent years. If ever. This was all without compromising the usual bolt ons that come with a scene these days.

The plan was for me to arrive at 8am on the Wednesday morning and complete the shoot and be out of the room by check out time at 11am but we were done by 9:30. I was scratching my head wondering if I got all the elements I needed to make this work and I had to admit to myself they were just really good at doing what they did. I was immediately drawn to them by the mere fact we do not have any vietnamese girls on the site. The closest I can think of is Luxi and she was from Thailand. What was really nice about them is that Pussy Kat gave me her own produced calendar as a parting gift as we left the hotel after the shoot which I thought was rather nice.

They were a really nice couple too. It occurred to me that the reason we got the shoot done so quickly in the morning was because thats the best time for  blokes sexually after a good nights rest. I'm sure Pussy Kats tight body, amazing petite bum and perky nipples with her exotic good looks had a big part to play in it too. This may also mark the first time we've had early morning glory sex on the site too.

So there you have it a few new Real Couples firsts for all you patrons with us keeping it real as we do. We do like to vary things and keep it interesting so I hope you like this update. Peace and love!

More than just a blog

April 29th, 2014

Venus 2012 from ukap admin on Vimeo.

Click on the image to go to the DVD store

Where can you get the password to play this video? Read on and all will be revealed.

We've made some new additions to the blog I want to make you aware of. In the wake of the UK Adult Awards 2013 video I wondered if people wanted to get hold of the videos that were up for awards so I included a DVD STORE page to showcase most of the DVDs and where you can get them. You can find these new addtional pages to your right in block capitals. Just click on it and it will take you to the content. Your Choice are a reputable company that have been operating for over 20 years so you can order in complete confidence that you will receive your orders within 2-3 days in discrete packaging sent within the UK. Click on the video cover and it will take you straight to the site where you can order. Its that simple

I've also included a free video page so you can have a glimpse BEHIND THE SCENES of some of the extras available inside the members area as bonus content. There seems to be some confusion I suspect mainly because all my scenes are reality based in style that it looks like behind the scenes. The difference being in the bonus content you get to see me at work talking to the couples and this is usually where I do the interviews and part of my technique in relaxing couples before the shoot  offers some insight into their personalities and relationship that a sex scene usually doesnt allow.

Another addition is LIFESTYLES & EVENTS. This is where you will find videos like the UK Adult Awards 2013 video and other videos of interest like the Venus Sex Fair which previous years, 2010 and 2011 have been available in the members area for some time already. This offers a sample of what is available in the members area in the way of bonus content.

We've got around to including the REAL COUPLES PODCASTS so you can easily listen to all the shows as we put them up by going straight to the page. Its in a nice little carousel that you can flip through and play the podcast you want to listen to. Special podcasts are recorded from events that are not exclusive to us. In the case of Michelle and Stefan Hard, this recording was done on a day I shot exclusively for Michelle Thornes website.

Whats all this for? Promotion! We believe Real Couples to be about the lifestyle and culture as well as the sex and we're opening up the blog to express this. Porn sites where couples are concerned have to be more than just porn to be interesting so if you know of any events and want to invite me to cover it then get in touch and let me know. I'm also keen to showcase couples lifestyles too. Again, if you are interested, then let me know