I'm going to say it here because youre not likely to read an answer to this topic anywhere else and I have looked around on the internet and see that some anti porn sites consider porn is the new drug that poisons relationships
Be that as it may, Im not going to change the worlds view on this topic but I can offer an alternate view. I was inspired to write about this since I rarely write about relationships beyond my doing shoots when I'm in a prime position to do so based on my experience of hundreds of shoots later. Porn puts me in a good place to observe reality and sex that psychologists often hypothesise about.
A close female friend told me she checked her husbands phone because she feared he was cheating on her and stumbled on his wank bank. Thats youth speak for porn collection of pics on his phone. At first she thought it was the woman he was having an affair with but then quickly deduced by the sheer amount of different women that they must be porn pics from the internet. Obviously he didnt think to passcode his phone. Some blokes are not technically minded to cover up their tracks.
She expressed her relief by saying it was just normal porn he was looking at and nothing weird whatever weird. Just your usual porn stuff with women getting fucked in the ass then. Ok. Cool
I'm aware of the problems arising from porn on a societal level and decided that most of the answers arise from our own moral compass when it comes to this topic, but the worst group are radical feminists and I cant help but feel the reason they are angry is the same reason these women are mad at their men for watching porn too
That reason is freedom. They feel their men are cheating on them because they feel that their partners watching porn is taking the attention away from them. Its an insecurity issue with men and women who feel if their partner is looking somewhere other than them then they will stray and while this is a distinct possibility but if that is going to happen it would happen without the porn anyway.
I knew another relationship with a couple on the site that broke down because he was looking at adult chat sites and was obsessed with that way before the likes of Tinder became the mainstay of dating sites.
Watching porn isnt really the problem if you include dating sites and apps too
From an armchair psychologist point of view a womans insecurity is brought on by the fact she is tired, not feeling sexy because she is busy looking after the kids and home but also there is an understandable jealousy that a man spending time with porn is taking up time he could be spending with her. Nothing infuriates a woman more than seeing someone looking prettier than her or worse if the woman is not as good looking. Its a threat to her and no amount of explaining is going to make it ok and men know that. Thats why they lie about it and do it in secret and the downside of this is guys can feel shameful skulking around hiding their habit like this but it is a necessary evil to a quiet life.Better to live the lie than go through a divorce
My friend heard me explaining all this but she had resolved this within herself already. She knows he hasnt lost interest in her and is even thankful he is using porn as it gives her a break from tending to his needs anyway “but that motherfucker better give up that dick when I need it though”
Modern love eh?
What you got to watch out for is faith based safeguards to avoid temptation. They are not effective with religion considering the biggest users of porn are those who are faith based anyway and for good reason. The sin of being tempted by porn makes it all the more delicious on a subconsious level whereas a normal atheist would find other distractions like mountain climbing or something where their very safety and desire to live requires their full attention. Taking up exercising could make things worse as it boosts your hormones and you are more likely to want more sex anyway, which is great for your partner but if thats the problem then maybe you need to consider if you are so depenent on porn then you are lacking something in your life anyway and should be honest with yourself to reach the conclusion necessary to resolve your problem
Porns not the problem. You are. Be honest about it